Peace often begins with humility. Sometimes the words “I’m sorry” can unlock healing, restore relationships, and bring freedom to our hearts.
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Why is it so hard to apologize?
Why is it so difficult to admit we were wrong…
to acknowledge that our actions may have caused hurt or unhappiness?
The definition of apologise is:
“To tell someone that you are sorry for having done something that has caused problems or unhappiness.”
Cambridge Dictionary
An apology can feel like an admission of guilt… an acknowledgement of wrongdoing.
If I’m honest, this has been a struggle for me at times.
I long to be Christlike in every aspect of my life, yet I am still a work in progress.
The truth is, there have been times when I have held onto the false belief that I was right and others were wrong.
Sometimes it has been over ridiculous things,
like arguing over which way is north…
or quarrelling over chores until it caused tension and distance in relationships with the people I love.
What begins as something small can quickly grow into conflict and brokenness.
At its root, this attitude is often self-righteousness…
and beneath self-righteousness lies the sin of pride.
The Danger of Self-Righteousness
Jesus warned us about self-righteousness in the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector:
“To some who were confident of their own righteousness and looked down on everyone else, Jesus told this parable…”
Luke 18:9–14 (NIV)
In this parable, the Pharisee proudly listed his good deeds before God, while the tax collector stood at a distance, humbly crying out:
“God, have mercy on me, a sinner.”
Jesus said it was the humble man—not the proud one—who went home justified before God.
“For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
Luke 18:14 (NIV)
Humility opens the door to grace.
Pride closes it.
Conviction Versus Condemnation
I was recently convicted of self-righteousness and felt prompted to make amends.
When the Holy Spirit convicts us, He does so gently.
He gives us clarity…
a sense of purpose…
and often the courage to act.
This is the opposite of condemnation.
Condemnation brings guilt, shame, and hopelessness.
Conviction says:
“What you did was wrong, but it can be made right.”
Condemnation says:
“You are wrong and beyond repair.”
Conviction leads us toward repentance—
a change in the way we think and act.
Condemnation tries to keep us trapped.
Our loving God calls us toward freedom.
Jesus’ Clear Instruction
Jesus gave us clear instructions about reconciliation:
“So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.”
Matthew 5:23–24 (ESV)
God values reconciliation.
He cares deeply about the condition of our hearts and our relationships.
The Vulnerability of Saying Sorry
Asking for forgiveness can feel vulnerable.
We may fear rejection…
embarrassment…
or an unexpected response.
When I prayed and obeyed God’s prompting to apologize, I was surprised.
One person said:
“Oh, don’t worry about that—it’s all in the past.”
Another admitted their own part in the conflict.
It became clear that God wasn’t just leading me to apologize for their benefit…
He was healing me.
The unresolved hurt had been weighing on my heart.
It was holding me back.
Through humility and obedience, God brought peace.
What I gained was:
- right standing with God
- relief from guilt
- peace in my heart
- growth in humility
- stronger relationships
I do not want to risk losing that peace again.
Freedom Through Reconciliation
If you have offended someone through pride, anger, or self-righteousness, I encourage you to talk to the Holy Spirit about it.
If He prompts you to make amends—and if revisiting the situation will not cause further harm—pray and ask for wisdom about how and when to reconcile.
I have discovered that making atonement for sin takes nothing valuable away from me.
It only removes what I was never meant to carry:
guilt…
shame…
and useless baggage.
Reconciliation can release:
- liberty to the captives
- peace and joy
- humility and growth
- trust and restoration
- healthier relationships
Prayer
Heavenly Father,
Thank You for Your mercy and grace. Thank You for gently convicting us when we are wrong and leading us toward freedom. Help us to lay down pride and embrace humility. Give us courage to apologize when needed and wisdom in restoring broken relationships. Cleanse our hearts and fill us with Your peace and joy.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Activation
Take a quiet moment today and ask the Holy Spirit:
“Is there anyone I need to apologise to or reconcile with?”
If He brings someone to mind, pray for courage and guidance.
A simple act of humility may open the door to healing, peace, and freedom.
God bless you and your family.
Right now is always the best time to begin.
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