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No one likes being humiliated. Admitting when we’re wrong, whether at home, at work, or even at church, can feel deeply uncomfortable. Yet learning how to apologize and take responsibility is essential for restoring relationships and walking in biblical humility. When we make a mistake, there is only one healthy path forward: we own it and we make it right.
I don’t know about you, but whenever I realize I’ve made a mistake, I get that sick feeling in my stomach. My heart races. My thoughts spiral. And unfortunately, it seems to happen to me more often than I’d like!
Sometimes it feels like I don’t have the emotional resources to weather what might follow. But then I remember:
I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13 (NIV)
Why We Fear Admitting Mistakes
What causes so much anxiety around admitting fault?
Is it fear of man?
Fear of rejection?
Fear of humiliation?
Recently, I made a mistake at work that had far-reaching consequences. To make matters worse, someone else was blamed for it. It caused upset and tension among my colleagues.
I knew what I needed to do. I prayed and sought the Lord for guidance. Humility, was called for. Integrity was required. As scripture says:
Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.
James 1:12 (ESV)
The Power of Taking Responsibility
When I spoke to my colleagues affected by my error, I admitted I had written the draft and apologized. Although, they were upset, I didn’t try to rationalize what had happened. It doesn’t help to make excuses when we regret something, it seems like we’re not remorseful.
The next time I saw the person blamed, I admitted my error in judgement and said sorry. I did the same when I spoke to my Line manager.
How God Restores Relationships Through Humility
Taking responsibility, unreservedly, and expressing regret each time, didn’t lead to a tirade from my leaders. I think they appreciated my candor and acceptance of responsibility.
I then took steps to repair the damage.
The burden left immediately. Fear deserted me. Peace reigned. As Peter reminds us:
After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace [who imparts His blessing and favor], who called you to His own eternal glory in Christ, will Himself complete, confirm, strengthen, and establish you [making you what you ought to be]
1 Peter 5:10 (AMP)
If you find yourself in a situation where you have made a mistake and need to restore the damage, seek God. He will direct your steps.
Prayer
Lord God, bless me with the humility and courage needed to apologize. Give me the opportunity and the words to make amends for the hurt I caused. Pave the way for restoration of the trust that’s been broken and help rebuild the relationships that have been wounded, in Jesus name.
Amen
Activation
Consider taking time today to be with the Lord. Ask Him ‘Give me eyes to see who I’ve hurt.’ Sit quietly, waiting and He will show you.
Then, repent to God for the words or actions that caused the damage. Ask Him to show you what to do next.
He will strengthen you and guide your steps towards reconciliation.
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Sources:
- https://www.biblegateway.com
- https://www.openbible.info/topics/endurance_in_trials
- https://www.openbible.info/topics/trials_and_tribulations
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